DHC

It is common knowledge to most people that the rules of general etiquette and DHC (Decent Human Consideration) include:

If you would like someone to come to your party:

• Invite them a few days in advance. Better planning could save you a lot of disappointment.
• PHONE them so that you can speak with them and get an immediate answer if you require knowledge of their attendance right away.
• Respect that people may already be engaged in plans for that evening (even if they planned not to do anything specific) so the longer in advance you can invite them, the better.

If someone does not turn up to your impromptu party:

• You have no right to be angry at those who didn't turn up if you only gave them 1 hour's notice.
• Waking people up by ringing their doorbell and screaming profanities into their speaker phone at 2.15am is not acceptable.
• Sms'ing profanities about other people's supposed lack of DHC at 2.30am is also not acceptable. You are the one who is lacking in DHC.

Apology

• It is better not to say anything. It is, however, important to apologise in the right way if you feel you need to say anything at all. Which you probably do so:
  Keep it short.
  Do not embelish with reasoning.
• It is not acceptable to apologise in such a way that you defend your actions.
  You were wrong. People were sleeping. You were drunk.
• Remember that you cannot place expectations on other people. Disappointment is your own problem which you must deal with in your own time.
• Friendship and respect are earned - not to be taken for granted.
  Turning up drunk on someone's doorstep at 2.15am does not earn you any respect or a desire from others to be your friend.
• Remember to apologise to other people at the party who's night you spoiled with all the talk of those who did not turn up.....
  ....especially if it is your daughter and your impromptu party was arranged as her farewell. It is only your fault if nobody turned up.
  Take a second to imagine how your daughter must have felt....
  'Fare thee well to London lucky lass and be thee rid of thine mother's serpentine tongue.'

There.
I've vented.
It is finished.
I am going to put it behind me and try not to pity this poor woman..